The Rye Bread Marriage

How I Found Happiness with a Partner I'll Never Understand
by Michaele Weissman

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How do partners in long-lasting relationships live together without driving each other up a wall? After forty years of marriage, Michaele Weissman has a few answers.
When they first meet, John— a dashing European, a Latvian refugee, a physics PhD—is hoping to settle down. Michaele, a fast-talking American...
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Published By Algonquin Books

Format Hardback


Number Of Pages 288

Publication Date 08/15/2023

ISBN 9781643752693

Dimensions 5.9 inches x 8.6 inches

“In her captivating memoir, Michaele Weissman affirms that we are all more connected than we think. With a little bit of humor and a lot of grace, Weissman makes the case that marriage is an emotional continuum, and love is just one end of it. This book is all at once honest, relatable and endearing.”
— Pati Jinich, New York Times bestselling cookbook author and host + executive producer of PBS’s La Frontera and Pati's Mexican Table

“Weissman's striking reverence, her bold humility, and her compassion for her brilliant and traumatized Latvian husband as she unearths his compulsion for his home country’s bread make this tale of food and love and life and war soar. I closed the last pages with tears in my eyes for the gift of these complex histories, this compelling love story—and a determination to find the best rye bread in town.”
— Lauren Francis-Sharma, author of Book of the Little Axe

“This book is a love letter, one that explores relationships and marriage. It’s a book about the history and the beauty of bread. But most important it is a courageous book about the complexity of love.”
— Mark Furstenberg, James Beard Foundation’s Outstanding Baker 2017 and owner of Bread Furst Bakery

“Beautiful. Michaele Weissman takes us on a magical journey across continents and time, and I doubt there is a couple who won’t see themselves in the story of this marriage. The trail of rye bread crumbs (real and symbolic) led me to an emotional glimpse of the impact of love, war and fear on our humanity and who we become.”

— Liz Neumark, CEO and founder, Great Performances Catering, and author of Sylvia’s Table.

"What is marriage? is a question asked and answered throughout this engaging, thoughtful, and compassionate memoir. The Rye Bread Marriage is a wonderful read."

— Elizabeth Poliner, author, As Close to Us as Breathing

"A charming, insightful meditation on the intersection of love, family, and food."
— Kirkus Reviews

“The result is a witty celebration of marriage that’s sure to resonate with anyone who’s taken the plunge.”

— Publishers Weekly

“I loved this book; it’s one of the most real, honest, funny and at times heartbreaking stories about what it’s like to be in a long-term marriage."


“Moving… a satisfying meal of a memoir”

— Culture Wag